Thursday, 17 February 2011

The truth about looking within

I found a very good article online on Hubpages that I just can't resist to share with myself and you!

The Truth about Looking Within

By Enigmatic Me

In response to a fellow hubber regarding tv versus personal development :

In some people's minds the realities are that we live busy lives that are demanding on so many levels. My philosophy is a little different. Growing personally takes time, effort and demands that we look inward before looking outward. By thinking of locus of control (who/what in our lives make our lives the way they are) people become scared to admit to themselves they can be better or different. The old addage of "Do onto others as we would have them do unto you" is probably one of the toughest things to do. Not because we don't all want to be treated with respect, feel heard and listened to, have a sense of belonging (beyond our families), feel worthy and have some self esteem. No, its because we feel on times (no matter who you are and what you do in life) that someone owes us. Don't tell me you never thought "I'd let that guy get into this lane had it not been for the idiot who cut me off back there". We see the world as 'dog eat dog' instead of one long continuum of events that we have total control over. We like to give 'others' (boss, wife, husband, mother, father, brother, sister, power company, tax man) power over us as a means to blame and shirk responsibility for our own actions. That way we can justify our actions to ourselves. It makes things more palatable when things go wrong... moreso not go our way than wrong in some instances.

All of this plodding and scheming leads to a life that is comfortable, where things 'just don't go my way', where 'people are to blame', and that 'can never turn around'. For if we were to take control back from 'others' then we would have no one to blame,nothing but ourselves to fall back on. We become accountable for our way of living, our way of dealing with others, and our short comings. And really, who wants all that responsibility?? I'd rather watch CSI:NY, that way I'll see others living more crappy lives than mine, getting what they deserve because they didn't take control of who they were/what they did. We choose to live blinded by guilt, shame, disappointment, envy, greed. And it is all because we are afraid of what that accountability will mean for us in the long run, but also what that accountability will mean for situations in the past.... We were at fault. we could have done differently, we could have chosen a different path, but we were too selfish to go that path. So we chose the lazy path... one that is comfortable and easy, one that we've been living for a long time. We have little motivation to consider alternatives to our thoughts, philosophies, our beliefs, because we believe no one else is doing it... why should 'I' be the one to change... 'they' should take a good look at themselves not me.

Odd thing is that if everyone were to take a moment and rectify a wrong they had committed (no matter how big or small) then people would start thinking "hey it's okay to be accountable".... "that guy is a stand up guy"... and not only would you be changing yourself, but you'd change other peoples understanding and perception of us. Sounds like a win-win to me.

And a Youtube video by Luka Bloom that covers it very well:

Don't Be Afraid of the Light that Shines Within You

Out of the cold, dark winter space
We come together, looking for Brigids grace
We dip our open hands deep into the well
Where our rivers run to, who can tell, who can tell

We warm our hearts and faces in the heat of the burning flame
Something about our spirit never stays the same

Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Within you

So many lives in shadows, with so much to give away
Brilliant dreams in waiting, to see the light of day
We step up to the well at the dawn of spring time
When we go our way, we let the light shine, let your light shine

Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Dont be afraid of the light that shines within you
Let the light protect you
Let the light direct you
Dont be afraid
Dont be afraid
The light that shines within you.

Love and peace, everyone!

Monday, 14 February 2011

Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!

Been a while since I posted anything. So, for this Valentine's Day I'd like to give my gratitude to the Universe for my dearest partner who may prefer to be unnamed... to his love letters this morning that made me cried like a baby in happiness, and to our beautiful home that always welcome me at the end of the day.

And here's to my friends out there, single or double or single again... I just want to say this:

**Before we love someone else, we have to be totally in love with ourselves first**

So, love yourself first and foremost, and let the soothing rays of love overflow from within you. Connect with your inner self, and be happy always.

And here's a song for us all in this Valentine's Day. I chose something that is more reflective to the need to love ourselves first, which is the main ingredient for loving someone else.

True to Your Heart
(Mulan, Disney, Stevie Wonder)